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Last week I taught “Savvy Strap-On Seduction” at The San Francisco Armory – here, as promised to my wonderful attendees, are the questions I did not have time to answer in class! Enjoy.

Do you recommend water-based or silicone lube for non-toy ass-fucking?

Silicone, all the way! Though there isn’t much differentiation between silicone lubricants (they tend to mostly have the same ingredients), I particularly love the Swiss Navy brand. If you’re a diehard water-based fan, however, you can try Sliquid’s “Sassy” brand, which is slightly thicker and slicker than most water-based lubes.

Stupid question…but how do you find the G-Spot and how do you know when you’ve found it?

This could be a HUGE answer, so I’ll instead give you some helpful bullet points!

– Everyone with a vulva has a G-Spot; what varies is how sensitive the G-Spot is and how engorged it gets during stimulation. Some folks love it played with, some folks hate it, and some have absolutely no feeling there whatsoever!
– The G-Spot is located app. two knuckles deep inside the vagina on the roof (curl your fingers towards the belly button). It can vary in shape from almond-sized to walnut-sized, and it’s a little rough feeling, like the way the roof of your mouth gets after you burn it on hot pizza.
– You can stimulate the G-Spot a variety of ways. Some folks like it played with as foreplay, and some people like it played with after they’re warmed up. You can apply a slight pressure to it, stroke it, “hook” your finger around it and pull towards you gently, etc. Keep checking in with your partner to see what feels good to them.
– There are toys specifically designed to hit the G-spot, both dildos and vibrators, and they’re going to have a slight curve to them. They can be fun to experiment with, either solo or with a partner!

How comfortable are harnesses?

It depends! Generally nylon, leather, and other “scrappy” harness tend to be less comfortable, while cotton-blend harnesses modeled after actual underwear (by companies like Spare Parts and RodeOh) are quite comfortable!

What is your favorite position for the double-penetration dildo?

The DP dildo I have is the Share by Fun Factory, and if I’m wearing the dildo I like a variety of positions. Because I have pretty strong kegel muscles and usually wear the dildo in a harness for extra support, I’m not usually worried about my end (the shorter end) falling out, with sometimes happens with double-ended dildos. If you are, though, then generally avoiding the influence of gravity and have the wearer be on the bottom while their partner sucks and/or rides the dildo from the top works the best!

What got you started with strap-on fucking?

Performing in porn, actually! I was already queer-identified and dating women and trans folks, but I REALLY like using my hands and I hadn’t made the jump yet. Getting paid to practice doing something you find hot anyway is kind of the best thing ever!

As always, additional inquiries can be directed to ms.andre.shakti@gmail.com!

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